Wedding is a wonderful time..people get together, have fun, lots of parties,lots of shopping...and persons for whom all this means a lot, the bride...and ofcourse the bridegroom. I can talk pages about what emotions a bride goes through, because I have experienced it myself. The joy of starting a new life with that one person who is soon going to be your world...the turmoil of leaving your parents, your home, changing your world forever..now that's quite a rollercaster ride of emotions.If a girl has dreams of sharing the world with that one person...means she needs his attention, love, understanding and above all his honesty.
Honestly, for a marriage to survive these are the essentials.
So, you guys out there....
If you love someone and do not have the consent of your parents, please don't marry some random girl and ruin her life. Please don't commit until you are over with your ex. You will not only be shattering your wife's dreams but will also be responsible for every tear that departs from her eyes because of your disinterest. Its the first months of marriage that are the hardest and requires nurturing....if you can't love and listen to your wife in these months you have probably lost some amount of trust already! And no relation blossoms without the seeds of trust. You will have a life...but a compromised one...always ready to shake with a little jolt.The relation a husband and wife share is the most beautiful relation gifted by God....and you have no right to abuse it! If you are sensible enough don't commit.
Have the courage and strength to cleanse your heart and remove that is not yours. Have the courage to store in your heart what is rightfully yours. Have the courage to move on.To parents (esp. mothers) out there...
If you think everything will be alright if you bring some random person in your child's life and expect everything will be alright....then I am sorry, I beg to differ. I don't care what history says but I seriously don't think its going to work out in times like now...when the girl is efficient enough to look after herself and the kids if any. The factor that worked before in working out a 'marriage without consent' was because women had lesser options and less or no money clubbed with no support. If you are smart, you can analyze why marriages in today's world don't work for long. I very strongly feel no matter what field, you need to have your basics right...and the base of any marriage proposal is the 'consent' of both the sides involved, and by sides I am strictly referring to the boy and the girl. Without the consent factor I don't think there's any point in even thinking about it. I know every parent has a dream of seeing their child settled with a family. But what's the point when your child has a settled life with unsettled relation and unsettled emotions. I guess its high time parents have courage to listen to their children and let them decide. You have every right to point your opinion and take a stand but at times its okay to let go, for your child's sake and for the girl's sake who is unknown to what's in store for her.
Dear ladies...
What applies to men also applies to you. Don't commit if there's a past hovering over your head. Let go and then continue. I know we all have dreams and everything...but things dont turn out the way we want them to. Every relation has some amount of compromise involved...but you never ever compromise on whats rightfully yours. NEVER EVER! You have every right to claim it. I don't know what more to say.....just keep praying that you be blessed with a loving, understanding and sensible spouse.
[p.s: I have written this post out of sheer restlessness and whatever I have posted has absolutely nothing to do with me and is based on general observations.]
